speechless
| Every once in a while, I'll come across a blog post that leaves me speechless. Update: I went back and reread the post and I think the part that bothers me the most is where she wrote "We've only been out of college for two years and are already burdened with $1000 a month payments for the student loans my parents forced me to take out (because they saved nothing for college, either)." I don't have a lot of sympathy for someone who thinks their parents forced them to take out thousands of dollars in student loans. The rest of the post about the wedding money is somewhat understandable (although I will never understand spending $25,000 on a wedding), because weddings can be an emotional rollercoaster and some people get worked up over them. I think sometime in the near future, she will figure out that her parents are doing the best they can. I really enjoy reading Make Love, Not Debt, and I get a lot out of their blog even though we don't often share the same views on spending and saving. |
posted by savvy at 4/28/2006 12:59:00 PM
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post a commentYes, that's bad. But it's not like she didn't see it coming...
See also:
http://www.makelovenotdebt.com/2006/02/bad_choices.php
Oops, let me re-link that - Bad Choices
Still, my heart goes out to her.
Why should her parents pay for her wedding?
What is she? 5 years old?
Cry baby ...
Sory, had to say it!!!
Feels much better now.
I have no sympathy for these two jokers. They open a blog supposedly about personal finance, then spend the rest of the time whining about this or that rather than taking responsibility. I recall a few months ago, the boyfriend wrote about spending $50 on haircuts. This type of person is going to have to learn it the hard way--she'll bitch and moan about the money, how unfair everything is, how much debt she has, etc. etc., and then at the end of the tantrum, all her financial problems will still be there. Nothing will improve until they decide to do it themselves.
Savvy - I'm curious to hear what you think of this.
Me - knowing the parents financial situation, I'm shocked she even had the nerve to ask for assistance with the wedding.
The theme I've noticed of late is that weddings appear to be about money, material goods, and image.
savvy, why exactly are you speechless?
Hi Savvy,
Could you update us on your purchase of the 7-piece set? A few friends and I also bought the set and Amazon sent us each different items than advertised.
Not complaining too much - mine were a melange of different colours, and the skillet is 12" instead of the 10" advertised.
Wow. Quite like you, I'm speechless. I have no speech.
My husband and I eloped with the plan to have an anniversary celebration a couple years down the road when it would be more affordable. It's not the end of the world.
*oroo* yeah I duno about that post.
savvy's probably speechless for the same reason many people left comments at their blog.
There is probably a more detailed back story to the entire ordeal, which can make things more understandable... but yeah....
Sometimes i wonder what it takes to grow-up and take the (financial) responsibility of life. It is so easy to expect (free) money from parents. Even if they have lot of money, THAT IS ALL THEY HAVE. The day I had my lovely first baby I grew up and stopped crying. Now i know what it TAKES to be a mom/dad. Only if i can do 50% of what my parents did for me. Hoping everyone understands that we have age on our side to take care of our financial situation NOT our parents.
If we are lucky we are the ones who should be helping them!!!
I think the main issue is not whether you agree with the idea of spending $25 000 on a wedding or whether she is a cry-baby, but the fact that, while she realises that there have been bad financial decisions made, her impression was that they would be able to help out. Remember, it's not that long ago that a woman's parents were expected to foot the entire bill for a wedding or provide a dowry. Her mother 'promised' $10 000 and then admitted that it couldn't happen.
Whether or not she is 'spoiled', it all depends on what she was led to believe. With the college thing, she could've been led to believe there was money set aside and then discovered that there wasn't.
I think she blogged while still emotionally connected to the issue.
I thought I was speechless until I read the comments. I am confused by comments that said her parents PROMISED her 10k and then didn't come through. She fully states they "never promised" but her mom said she "would like to" she's acknowledging a difference between those phrases.
but as an adult knowing her mom's bad choices related to finances, that parents couldn't pay for her college, they're in their 70s still working with poor health, do not have a heap for retirement and huge monthly payments how did she honestly think her parents would be able to come with 10k??
She seems clouded by her wants, rather than grounded in Her (and Him's) reality so this might be a blessing in disguise!
Yah, I'm glad you posted this comment, Savvy. I had the same reaction. I was too disgusted to post a reply in their blog, though.
This entitlement attitude that has manifested itself in my generation is quite pathetic. Even if her parents had promised it, they obviously can't afford it. Knowing their financial delimma, it's quite selfish of her to presume they "owe" her anything.
Whether her parents made poor financial decisions is frankly none of her concern. They provided for her for 18 years. It's time she became an adult.
Apparently bad financial decision-making skills run in the family.